Monday, January 16, 2012

Lolita Movie Guide to being a better person

Strange Title huh? But this was a post I really felt needed getting out there.
We all know the two sides to the lolita community. You've got the frilly princesses of manners on one hand and the cattiness and anonymity which the internet provides. It's discouraged a lot of girls and some just don't get involved with their communities anymore. Lolita secrets can be brutal, cgl worse and gtfoegl is an open shout out badmouthing others. Is it a wonder that we can get ourselves a reputation?
So what movie am I talking about that has to do with this and Lolita? A little princess, which tells us to be good to others and believe in our dreams and selves? Kamikaze girls ( which I admit I've never watched, eep! ) or some other feel good happy G rated movie made for a younger audience? WRONG!

The Devil wears Prada
For those who have yet to see this epic flick, it's a chick flick sorry, it's about regular girl Andy, who dreams of being a professional journalist, getting a job at high end fashion magazine runway and working for the dreaded Miranda Priestly; who is anything but! Hilarity and good times afoot! As she works her way up the corporate ladder she begins to change, but for the better or worse?

I thought of Lolita after a midnight showing of this movie because it really reinforced the idea of who we are and what 'creates' us. Andy's first step into creating a good impression on her snooty higher ups, whom she wishes to be accepted by, is to vamp her wardrobe up and fill it with brands like Gucci, Prada, Chanel, Luis Vuiton etc. learning about the world she's found herself immersed in. Looking the part isn't enough though and suddenly it's dieting to reach size zero and shoving colleges out of her way to keep her job while alienating her friends, a far cry from the good girl we started with!

If you can't see where I'm going with this I'll just get to it; it's a tale surprisingly familiar to a few secrets and rumors I've heard about the lolita community. You see lolita, such a different and unique fashion and want in. Good intentions and a decent co-ordinate and you're sure to make friends! Until you post online and suddenly it's 'fatty, learn to coordinate, no brand, ita, bad hair, learn to photoshop etc. etc.' Eep! So you step up, buy the brand, do the makeup, start a daily blog even! Then the compliments start coming in, and you're not being gossiped about; excellent but hey...look at that newb! Don't they know lolita is no place for guys? And they're too poor for brand!? Whatever, you saved up, so can they! Best tell others so this person gets the message...

And so the cattiness begins, sensing where this is going? I think now more than ever girls are letting the fashion dictate who they are. No they're not playing bridge on the lawn sipping tea all day and living a lifestyle which is all manners and petticoats, but they are letting an intenet elitism get the better of them. Where you that way before lolita? Then why did you start?

Bottom line is, if you look back and find yourself wondering why you changed so drastically because of a fashion, maybe you need to get out of it and remember why you started.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Dream Dress List: 2012 revamp!

Well, a belated Festive season and Happy new years! I'm going to do a few follow up posts today on Japan and a wardrobe post BUT I figured we'd have some fun with things that we can take care of with the new year. Everyone and their dog is doing resolutions so let's see instead...
Last year my dream dress list was, in order;
  •  Ribbon decoration jsk in pink X
  • Frill Marine
  • Blooming Garden jsk in yellow
  • Wonder party bustier jsk in sax and pink X
Lesser items I wanted also included tiara rose, shoes and accessories and wigs. I was really happy to get the items I did, and then some! I guess that's what wardrobe posts are for though right?

Anyways, I decided I'd put down this years list of wanted items, and hopefully you guys can share/evaluate your own progress!

 Ribbon Decoration was my dream dress since I wanted to dress lolita. However as much as I love the design I've come to accept that velveteen is not a feasable fabric to have in a country like Australia and so it will be taken off the list, maybe I'll commission it in cotton sometime?
Arrgh, my current and new ultima dream dress to replace the former. I actually disliked the original chess chocolate dresses, cute print, designs were cute but I wasn't fusses. Then the princess set was released....ALL MY WANT EVER! Pink is too OTT and brown is..there's a lot of brown, but the icory and mint are gorgeous!
Since this collab came out I've thought it was adorable! From the print, chocolate with bunnies, to the super cute belt around the center!

I still love Wonder party, and may also be interested in the special set, but with my love for sax developing I'm beginning to think that that blue version may add more variety to my wardrobe!

Meta's Moonlight Night print, possibly the only 'goth' print I like, is so whimsical both in style and print! I was lucky enough to see it in white while I visited japan and it only made me want it more!

 And a few 'dream' classical pieces. Both are gorgeous no? They carry the old and elegant charm of classic lolita but use the hard contrast in colours, and vibrant colour choice, as a sweets dress, with plenty of ruffles and ribbons to make me just as starry eyed as any AP print.

There are of course many other dresses I want, and lately I've decided I need a 'hot pastel mess' dress and have come to think either sugary carnival or Milky planet in skirt form might work, although I still want dreamy dollhouse haha. OH and this is the year i'm NOT buying a lot of lolita...riiiight.

And, to finish on an open note, I've decided to collect some pullips, mostly the lolita ones but there's a few others I like. So! This february I'm also adding this little one to the 'dream' list, heehee!